Top 3 Things You Can Do to Brighten Up Your LIFE: How To Be Happier With Your Life

by Christina Rowsell
The Brighter Side

Be Kind To Yourself!

If you don’t look after YOU, no one will.  You are in charge of how you feel at the beginning of the day and if your day starts with negative thoughts, the rest of your day will snowball.  Once you grasp on taking care of yourself and reminding yourself that you are worth kind words and loving thoughts, you can then spread the love!  If you start your day on a positive note, chances are that the rest of your day will be filled with great intentions.  

© Studio Gorgeous
I’ll share a secret with you, something that puts me in a good mood the moment I wake up.  I bought pj’s that say B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L!  And when I wake up in the morning and see myself in the mirror I giggle as I read BEAUTIFUL in my head.  By putting that ONE word in my head, I already feel better about my day.  I’m not saying you should go out and buy pj’s that say HOT, STUD or even GORGEOUS.  But it wouldn’t hurt!  If not on your pj’s, type it up and stick it to your mirror!!  Give it a try.  Give yourself the LOVE you deserve.

Here's a link to a GREAT website that is all about you looking GORGEOUS click HERE.


 “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
- Buddha

Share The Love!  

Treat others as you’d like to be treated:  Once you’ve taken care of yourself, you can take care of others.  Smile, you might just brighten someone elses day.  Happiness is contagious.  Not only for the person receiving the happiness, but it’ll remind you to be happy.   In fact research has proven that smiling actually makes you happier than you were before!  Your own smile may just lift your own spirits!  

I’ve been a radio announcer for 22 years now, and people are always asking me how I always sound so happy?  The secret is, I HAVE to be happy.  No one wants to hear a grumpy announcer.  And through the tough days, (yes I have tough days) I’m forced to put on a smile.  But along the way I always seem to cheer myself up, while cheering everyone else up.  I make a joke that it’s my job to “poop rainbows”.  But in actual fact, it’s true.  I’m here to put a smile on your face.  I’m there to make you laugh, and smile and forget about your problems.  And I always catch myself smiling and laughing too.  Even on those days that are weighing heavy on me.  It works!  Make someone else laugh, and you’ll instantly find your own spirits lifted!

Be Grateful For What You DO Have!

An attitude of gratitude creates blessings.  You can find the simplest things to be grateful for.  This will put your life into perspective.  Be thankful for your family, friends or your health.  If that has you down, be thankful for your ability to read, or write or walk.   If you’re still not able to lift your own spirits find someone who can remind you of all the GREAT things in your life.  Be sure to surround yourself with people who know how to lift your spirits and guide you to the things that are good in your life.  Or, keep a list handy of all the things that make you happy.  Post them around your house, in your car or even at work.  Find that one thing that makes you smile.  Maybe it’s the sound of a kitten purring.  Or maybe it’s the smell of cookies!  Find your trigger and be grateful for what you do have in your life. 

“Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”

- Veronica A. Shoffstall


Add a little "Happy"

by Christina Rowsell
via YouTube Pharrell Williams

Need a little "pep" to your step?  Count on Pharrell Williams!  He know's how to brighten your day!  Thanks Pharrell!



Sound Wellness - From Stressed to Serene

by Christina Rowsell
The Brighter Side

© Sound Wellness

When it comes to coping with stress we often think of what we can do to reduce the stress.  We will try to find the root of the stress and try to manage it.  Easier said than done right?.  Sounds simple, but in actually fact the stress of coping with stress can be just as stressful.

We're all so very busy with our every day lives.  And when you factor in taking care of others in our lives we often forget about taking care of our own needs.  Perhaps the "cure" for stress is as easy as listening to sounds that ease our minds.  Whether is a simple sound or just music.  Music can help you to relax, focus more so work is easier or manage stress.

Everyone experiences sounds and music differently.  It affects us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  When you listen to sounds, try listening from the inside out and see how you react to it.  See how it makes you feel physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Where do you feel the music in your body?   Spiritually, you'll find that the music captures you, gives you joy, peace and compassion.  How does it make you feel?  Listen to the responses your body creates - does it make your muscles tense or does it relax them?

© Sound Wellness

And finding the right sounds that make you feel good can make your work easier and manage stress.

Through the Sound Wellness programs, you can find out what sounds resonate with you in a positive way.

© Sharon Carne - Sound Wellness
Sharon Carne - BMus, M.F.A. is the founder of Sound Wellness.  She is an author, speaker, musician, recording artist, sound healer, Reiki master and consultant. Sharon's Sound Wellness programs are at the forefront of education in how sound and music can be easily applied to your everyday life - to reduce stress, help you concentrate, energize you, inspire you, support your health and so much more.

Sound Wellness encourages you to also explore your voice - the most powerful healing tool you have. Your voice is created inside of you and resonates every cell in your body with every sound that you make.  Feel the effect of your own voice as it creates an instant response in your being. Tune your entire being and connect with infinite possibility as you explore your voice deeper.

What can sound do for you? 
  • Improve your focus and concentration.
  • Connect and synchronize the hemispheres of your brain, enhancing your creativity.
  • Boost your immune system.
  • Lower your blood pressure.
  • Speed and enhance learning and memory.
  • Speed up recovery from surgery.
  • Decrease pain.
  • Decrease the stress hormone, cortisol, in 10 minutes.
  • Effortlessly create the relaxation response.

© Sound Wellness

Sound Wellness has some beautiful examples of finding the right sounds for you.

For me, I'm a sucker for nature.  Anything to do with water seems to help me breath easier.  It calms my mind and brings me to a place of peace.

Bird Song and Water

© Sound Wellness
The low sounds of the water calm the nervous system, slows down your heartbeat lowering blood pressure, slows down your breathing and creates a shift in brainwave state to the alpha state. A calming relaxation response.

In addition to the relaxation, the birdsong consists of high sounds. You never know when a bird is going to sing – they’re totally unpredictable. Your brain loves patterns and constantly looks for them. But the brain can’t find any patterns in birdsong.

The result is the brain becomes alert, focused and productive at the same time your body is relaxed.

This is a great sound to have in the background when you need to stay focused while you remain relaxed.


Perfect Fifth Tuning Forks

© Sound Wellness
In 1998, 3 scientists made a discovery which changed medicine. Their research showed that our cells produce and release nitric oxide. This was so important that they won the Nobel Prize in Medicine. One of the sounds that stimulated cells to release nitric oxide was the perfect 5th tuning forks. The same ones on the next track. In fact, they found that it took only 30 seconds of listening to the sound of the tuning forks to stimulate the nitric oxide cycle in their subjects.
Here is a list of benefits we experience when our cells are releasing nitric oxide in rhythmic cycles:
  1. Nitric oxide enhances cell vitality, vascular flow and heart healing
  2. Bacteria and viruses are destroyed at a micro level enhancing our immune system and increasing our ability to prevent and fight infection.
  3. Our resistance to stress is increased, as is our energy and stamina.
  4. Nitric oxide balances the autonomic nervous system, sharpening mental clarity and diminishing states of depression.
  5. Our digestion is improved and natural cleansing is enhanced.
Join Sharon for the next Sound Wellness Event 
From Stressed to Serene 
 Discover common sense ways to manage stress, improve your health and bring calm to your day!

For future events visit http://www.soundwellness.com/events/upcoming-events

And what The Brighter Side loves is that a portion of the funds generated through the memberships will be divided among some of Sound Wellness' favourite charities including:
  • Mustard Seed logoThe Mustard Seed who do amazing work with the homeless. We appreciate this organization not for just helping the homeless, as much as the way in which they do. They truly offer a hand-up, offering not only emergency services in the form of shelters and so on, but run awesome training programs as well.

  • handibusHandiBus is an organization that operates in centers across Canada. We became acquainted with them when my (Ed's) Mom had a stoke in 2006 and was confined to a wheelchair. Since then, one of her few joys came from getting out, and the only feasible way of accomplishing that, was with the Handi-Bus. For a minimal charge Mom could get a ride to her doctor, to get her hearing aids adjusted, or just to get a Timmy's coffee and donut. It was her connection to the rest of the world, and the efficiency and care exhibited by the drivers, the dispatchers, and the organization in general was truly outstanding. 
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A Quiet Strong Voice

© Lee Horbachewski
“It is Friday, October 22, 2004, and I know I cannot keep going; it has to end. The darkness is unbearable, the sadness and desperation are all-encompassing. This is my first real thought of suicide, and I am filled with relief that I can choose to end this, though I am consumed with fear. I begin to put a plan in motion: I make my way slowly to the pantry, and I grab every pill bottle I can hold. I retreat to the safety of my bedroom and, crying hysterically, I begin to open the bottles.

No, you can’t do this, I think, what about the girls? What about Neil? If you do this, it will destroy them. Well, I’m already doing a good job of that right now. Wouldn’t they be better off without me? I argue with myself, the inner turmoil unendurable. Suddenly, my best friend, Sandra, fills my thoughts. One year ago, her sister ended her life by suicide, and I have seen firsthand the pain it has caused. Do I really want to cause her that kind of pain again? I wonder.

For a brief moment, my thoughts are rational: What am I doing? I can’t do this! In a frenzy of anger, resentment, and hatred toward myself, I gather up all the bottles, return them to the pantry, and find the Yellow Pages. I stumble back to my bedroom, collapse on the bed, weak and exhausted, without any hope. I pick up the phone, open the phone book to the front page, and call the 24-Hour CrisisLine provided by Distress Centre. As a woman answers, I feel an uneasy knot in my stomach, but soon her calm, soothing voice reassures me. She is caring and helpful, listening attentively, not judging me, and all the while asking questions gently. For the first time, I feel that someone really understands and cares.”

An excerpt from my book "A Quiet Strong Voice".

Reaching out and asking for help is seen by some as a sign of weakness.  I beg to differ!  Asking for help is a sign of strength.

For the longest time I did not ask for help.  I wore a mask of “I’m okay.”  I didn’t want to bother anyone, or be judged for how I was feeling.  In an unhealthy way I felt safe as long as I suffered in silence.  Suffering in silence does not serve you, or anyone else.  Often people who love you can see that you are in pain, and lack the knowledge, or possess fear that holds them back in reaching out to you.  You need to, and you must, ask for help.

You can ask for help in many different ways.
  • Say to someone you love trust, “I am going through a difficult time right now, I would really appreciate if you could listen to what I am going through with an open heart and non-judgment, and be there to help me through this.” 

  • Make an appointment with your family doctor, and be completely honest with how you are feeling, and ask for help and guidance.

© Lee Horbachewski
You may be scared, resistant, and worried about asking for support.  I invite you for a moment to think of someone you love, for me this was my daughters.  Now, imagine that person going through a difficult time. Imagine her in darkness, and no one to support her because she chooses not to ask for help.

Would you ever wish for someone you love to be in darkness, alone, and isolated? 

Try to understand how important it is to do this, not only for yourself, but also as a model for your children, and those you hold dear.  It will take time, I promise you though the wall of resistance you have built will come down. 
What is the support you need?
Who are the people that may be able to support you?
How can they support you?

Take responsibility for your mental health.  You can’t do this alone.  Reach out and ask for help.

"This book is a beacon of hope!" ~ Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Click HERE to order today.

You are not alone.  You are loved.
Hugs & Love

© Lee Horbachewski
Lee Horbachewski has delivered her message of courage, hope and inspiration as a speaker to thousands of people.  Although not currently practicing, Lee is a certified professional coach through Erickson College International. Through her personal experience and many of the people she has worked with, she believes the number one step in starting the healing journey is to feel heard, loved, and accepted—beginning with self. She is a quiet strong voice of hope, inspiration, and authenticity for millions of people impacted by mental illness. Lee lives with her husband and two daughters in Calgary, AB, Canada