By Marlana Prowal
A young friend of mine expressed to me that she was having trouble finding love. It wasn’t bad enough that she didn’t have the time, or the type of job that could get her out to meet a potential new partner, but dating sites had proven to be a big ego-killer. After all, who wants to be dissected, picked off, or passed over as if they’re a piece of fruit at a grocery store stand?
One thing I keep hearing as a mantra for 2012, is how important it is to surround yourself with people who care about you. Keeping old, stale friends on Facebook because they once lived next door to you twenty years ago isn’t exactly the way to maintain a stimulating social life. We still want to connect with people who are willing to share our interests and eager to see us face-to-face.
Instead of focusing on love, why not concentrate on friendship first? Some of the most meaningful relationships start out as friendships. Whether a connection can blossom from a friendship, or meeting a potential love-interest through friends, there is no doubt that the old-fashioned way of meeting someone – which is in person first, can boost your self-esteem. It is, after all, the original and natural way to meet people.
Thanks to online tools, getting started is easy, yet we still associate that the way to meet new people starts with dating sites. Try not to think of these sites as your only resource. Take the pressure off from finding romance. Instead, start with friendship! Find like-minded individuals through meet-ups and clubs. In a search engine, type in your city plus the word “meetup” or “club” to find group calendars for social events. Use the same strategy to narrow your interests down by typing in your city name with specific groups. Book clubs, theatre sports, improv comedy, photography, painting, games, and faith are all great places to start. Check your local continuing education calendar for personal interest classes. There are so many ways to get out there and make new friends.
From there, you never know what can happen!
Wishing you love and happiness for 2012,
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